Someone on my Facebook wall pointed out, ” Isn’t it funny, how when things are happening with one guy it makes things possible with another? It’s like being offered a job when you’re already happily employed.” (Rachel M).
Yup.
Is it because you’re confident that someone likes you and things are going well that you bring about this sense of confidence that attracts other people to you?
OR is it that everyone is a big JERK and wants you when they can’t have you just to FUCK WITH YOU??
I’m listening to The Cranberrie’s “Zombie” right now, which is why I am so aggressive.
Let’s review:
People + what they can’t have = want.
Love = what people want.
Mel Gibson (does not) = what women want.
I’m not good at math so I don’t know what any of those equations mean. I tried to Beautiful Mind it, but I’m kind of Gladiatoring it. My point is, when you seem really happy, other people want to suck the happy out of you so they can have the happy too. Some people are true friends, and they don’t want to suck your happy, but everyone else needs to be side-eyed. I really believe that this is why you’re suddenly more attractive to men when you’re with a certain man. I think women do this too. You see someone with someone who isn’t you, and all of a sudden, it’s “Game on, buddy. Challenge accepted.”
Or maybe it’s just that you never realized another possibility was there and you’re in a place where you can open your eyes.
What do you think?
totally agree. when you’re available you become desperate, even if you’re not. it’s like men don’t want to see a woman looking around for a guy at a bar. then the minute you’re not looking the universe pours men down on you.
“it’s like men don’t want to see a woman looking around for a guy at a bar.”
I KNOW RIGHT WHAT GIVES? Men, your thoughts on this??
Horseshit. The opposite is true, though–women want proven goods.
I think girls like guys who have girlfriends because that’s one of the worst parts of dating, to see if the guy actually wants a girlfriend and, since he has one, he is obviously into more than just fucking around or “having fun” or whatever it is that they use as an excuse.
I think girls also do it as some sort of sick confidence booster. Telling themselves that they are better than the girlfriend and try to prove themselves right by trying to get the guy. If he resists, they try harder because they can’t stand to be seen as less than some girl they are “clearly better than.” If he is easily conquered then that is just undeniable proof that they really are the better girl.
I don’t really see guys pursue girls with boyfriends unless its specifically to get back at the boyfriend.
I don’t think guys do it consciously, I think they must pick up on something. It’s like that episode of Sex and the City (I know) where Carrie is finally happy with “The Russian” and she’s ready to move to Paris and Big shows up and says he wants her and Carrie screams, “IT’S LIKE YOU KNOW WHEN TO COME INTO MY LIFE WHEN I’M HAPPY AND SHIT ALL OVER IT.” I’m paraphrasing. Or maybe they do know but convince themselves that they don’t.
I think they know what they are doing for sure. It’s the same as when they were little boys and had the coolest toy ever until the newer toy came out and so they threw the old one away because it wasn’t “cool” anymore. That is until someone else comes along thinking its the greatest toy in the world and they have to have it back because it was theirs first.
They don’t really like the girl anymore (or again?) they just don’t want to miss out on something great.
I totally agree that women do NOT want Mel Gibson.
Are we sure? Look how desirable: http://thinningtheherd.files.wordpress.com/2010/06/mel-gibson.jpg
Have you ever noticed how Mel Gibson is almost identical to James K. Polk? Seriously, look it up.
Ugh, so true. You’re single for AGES and then all of a sudden when you’re taken the guy is like “Oh wait, I’ve actually liked you this whole time but was too afraid to say anything and now that there’s no way I can have you I feel brave enough to tell you.”
…or maybe that’s just me. 😛
It’s almost a scientific fact.
Wait, I thought true friends were the ones that WOULD suck your happy. Wait, are we talking about the same thing here?
EEEEY-OOHHHH!
I only know one thing. I love my calculus. It says U + Me = US.
No women can resist that. Except every woman.
You get an A+ in calculus.
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BIG FAT YAY RIGHT HERE.
This is also true if they find out you will be moving/studying abroad for a semester/going anywhere where they won’t actually have to see you. All of a sudden you are a commodity. I think people just seek out or glorify what they know they won’t require any effort on their part.
When it rains, it pours. – 30 Rock
Is this Liz Lemon?????
no, Lesbian Yellow Sour Fruit.
Maybe it’s because you’re confident AND not second-guessing every interaction you have with a guy so you come across as mad chill, which is what every guy wants in a lady. I THINK. My bf just told me that he and “all his friends” agree that a girl is sexiest right before she goes on a run. Does that mean relaxed and sporty and makeupless = attractive? I don’t know. All I know is that I screamed, “I LITERALLY NEVER GO ON RUNS!! SO THANKS FOR THAT!”
Yes, to all of this.
A girl that’s all dolled up, wearing stilettos and sipping fancy cocktails is a girl that guys want to fuck.
A girl that’s in her PJs, not wearing a bra or makeup, and watching Teen Wolf while eating tater tots on the couch, is girl that guys want to marry.
I am always leery of compliments from men….
I think the problem lies with the fact that when you’re dating someone and when you’re single you are two completely different people.
When you’re single, you’re trying to present the best person you possibly can, or at least the most attractive person you possibly can to whoever you’re chatting up at that moment. You try to think of things to make yourself interesting and attractive to people and actively try to emphasize those things meanwhile, attempting to keep all of the things you’re insecure about in a closely guarded little box hidden in the closet and labeled “tampons” so that no guy will ever go near it. You apply all sorts of smoke and mirrors in hopes of finding some rube to believe all of the illusions that you’ve been putting up. In general, when you’re single, you tend to be putting it all out there a lot more and whether you’re actually desperate or not, the intensity that is coming off of you tends to scare potential dates off.
But when you’re dating someone, you actually kind of become the best person possible. You drop all the illusions and let your guard down a bit and are generally just more relaxed, and relaxed is attractive. You’re not worried about trying to trick some guy into thinking you’re interesting, because you already have someone who thinks you are. You just have generally higher self-esteem, and that shows.
If you want to carry over the job metaphor, if you were hiring someone for a position, would you want to hire the person who was high strung in the interview and flubbing answers and making it very clear that they REALLY WANT THIS JOB, or would you hire the person who was relaxed and wasn’t concerned about the job because they didn’t need it?
Other than that, it’s simple science. The scent that causes sexual arousal in women more than any other, is the smell of another woman on a man. If a guy smells like sex, it makes girls want to be a part of that sex. The same is true of guys. It’s all just a big tinkle contest really, but with sex. But not like a golden showers thing. I’m done now.
Also, I would just like to state that I love the term “Gladiatoring” and the fact that you tagged this as “Gladiator”.
I think it’s because you don’t care/aren’t all that interested in the hypothetical second guy. You’ve got a man, you’re happy with that, you’re not trying to impress this other guy, and that makes him interested in you. Because you’re not trying, not wanting or needing.
Like one time I made plans to hang out with a cool guy, but then I was super hung-over and had just spilled ginger ale in the fridge and really could care less if he came over, and he was WAY into me. Then later, when I wanted him to like me, that put him off.
I think we’ve all been there.
OR is it that everyone is a big JERK and wants you when they can’t have you just to FUCK WITH YOU?
Apparently I was pretty confident this was the case and, in a drunken rage, tore apart a guy who came on to me. “You could have had me for years! Two fucking years and you never wanted me. But now that I’m happy you want me? Are you trying to ruin my LIFE? You just can’t stand to see me happy, can you? You’re so fucked up.” etc.
He may or may not have cried.